Saturday, February 14, 2015

What I've Learned & What I Hope You Know

Not really sure how to start this one off, but I figured a good dose of vulnerability would do my heart some good.

I was raised in a Christian home, accepted Jesus as my savior when I was about four or five years old. Somehow I was able to really get it at a young age, and I'm thankful that I've never known a time where I didn't know God loved me. Growing up was kind of crazy. We moved quite a bit, the first time was in fifth grade and I ended up going to three different high schools. The summer after my sophomore year my parents separated and a few months after graduation they got a divorce.

I've had a lot of people tell me that I seem intimidating because I have this appearance of being the "perfect little Christian girl" and having everything together. I'm big on being vulnerable and real with community, so false perception is the last thing I want. I have tons of wounds and lies in my heart, just like anybody else. I have "stuff" and life is often messy. But thankfully I'm constantly being healed, and hope is always forever throughout any circumstance or season. :)

Over the past three years I've learned a ton. And I have a huge huge heart and passion for church and people. That they can learn and be able kick start off from where I'm standing and journeyed too, that I would be able to launch them out to go to further places than even I will. So I just wanted to share some things I've learned in hopes of doing that.

-If you want to know who you are, you have to know who God is.
-God is real. And so is Satan. You are in a battle, and the enemy truly wants to kill, steal and destroy. Be aware, not afraid.
-God created you purely to love you, and everything we do is out of response to that.
-We all have our "stuff". We're human. We mess up. And we aren't perfect, especially Christians. We're probably the messiest bunch. Its okay to not be okay.
-Its never 5 steps forward, 3 steps back with God. Its always forward. One of the biggest lies is that you are back at square one with that same thing you tried to deal with five years ago. Its not, its just another layer.
-Its not always that we needs God's grace, a lot of times we struggle with giving ourselves grace. Stop bullying yourself.
-You carry life and death on your tongue, so be careful what you speak over yourself and those around you, even in joking. Rebuke lies, proclaim truth.
-Because Jesus is in you, you have authority. You are powerful. You are already fighting from victory not towards it. Proclaim victory over every situation and relationship.
-Process. All of life is a process, so get used to it. :)
-Be aware of your perception as God as Father. If you took the attributes you think God has and put them on an earthly father, would you think they were a good dad? (ie: If you saw a dad that purposefully put their child in a rough situation to teach their kid a lesson, would that be considered good parenting?) If not than you may want to re-evaluate your understanding of the Father's heart.
-Find a small group of people and always be completely vulnerable. Tell them absolutely everything, share all your "stuff". Satan's number one tool is guilt and shame, and he does it by trying to keep us quiet. He wants us to think that we are the only one dealing with that thing. And just so you know, you aren't.
-Love always wins.

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

So let's be real...

So let's be real...

I like to keep close tabs on what is happening in my life. If I'm feeling or doing it, there is probably a chart I've already made to organize it ahead of time. It's just the way I am.

But now I've entered into a new season...a confusing one. For the first time, I can't put a thumb on my emotions, what I'm feeling, what's happening and on it goes. Now I love love love new seasons. Fresh starts, new beginnings. Its change just the way I like it, when I can know exactly what to expect. Only thing is this period of my life is extremely similar to the last. I'm a lover of adventures and newness. And for me, my seasons are probably going to look somewhat similar for the next three years while I'm in school. Its a bit frustrating because most of my friends my age will be graduating and moving into new areas in the next year or so. Serious relationships, jobs, marriage, traveling, etc, etc. They are headed into the place I always thought I'd be in 2016. Don't get me wrong, I'm so so excited for all my friends and their new endeavors. But sometimes I feel a little left out and frankly, a little stuck. So that's played into a big portion of my last few months...and thoughts.

The other new thing about this spring semester is that I have more free time. Alone time. Being by myself really isn't my jam. Its forced me to sit down and actually think about what's actually going on in my brain. Scary. Vulnerable. I want to crawl back into this whole identity that I have so craftily built for myself over the years. But I guess Jesus said its not going to go that way, He cares to much about me to let that ever happen...

I realized that there are the problems and issues I've been aware of years and years. And up until now, my strategy was just to put really big band aids on them. I manipulate other areas in my life to try to deaden the pain in others. Now I'm realizing that there's a root tightly attached to all my "stuff" and I'm not exactly sure what all of my roots entail. Some are anger. Others fear. Not only am I just now becoming aware of what's in my heart, but I don't understand it all, not understanding is my ultimate most biggest ever crazy fear, because it means I can't control it.

I don't really have any answers. I'm just trying to learn how to be honest with myself, my community and God. I'm learning that I don't have to wait for my feelings and emotions and passions to be validated by others. I'm learning that its not only okay to not be okay, but its okay to not know if I'm okay. I'm learning that the beauty of seasons is that they are only for a time. Which makes them precious things to live in. It would be easy for me to try to plow through until the next adventure, but I figure that's a sucky way to live my life.

What I do know is this, God loves me and He's binding up my wounds. I can't always feel Him like I want to, but I know He's there. I'd prefer to forget everything, deny my emotions, the past, hurts and wounds. But I'm called to live in fullness. So Jesus goes to the scary places and He steps right in the middle of my pain. He makes my messy, not-so fun areas of my life okay, because He's with me.

So let's be real...

I know He's fighting for the restoration of my life.
I know He hears and answers me when I call.
I know I'm His favourite one.
I know I have favor and blessing and prosperity.
I know I have nothing to fear.
I know I'm loved deeply.